The Struggle That Shouldn’t Be

This topic, is a very touchy one, but it’s quite important to me. People just don’t seem to understand what I’m about to say, even though it’s extremely simple and straight forward.

You CANNOT change a person.

You see? Short and sweet, often ignored.
In relationships, people tend to look for what they want in a partner, only to learn that they aren’t quite what they thought them to be. I mean I understand completely, it’s always a learning process and it happens on a curve, I got it. You meet a person and you have to learn about each other and attempt to find common ground, done.

What irks me is that people tend to want to change, for better words “mold” their partners. Yes, you read correctly, MOLD. Sculptures are molded to what we want them right?

Let’s take that a step further: You meet a person and you really like what you seem, but something seems “off”, so you have to shape it according to your preferences. BINGO!

So if a lady has bad manners, you presume you can fix them by talking to her about them, right? You might even see a bad girl with a hint of potential, so you STILL talk to her, knowing that she isn’t good for you, no? Naturally, most would give a simple yes. It is not that easy though. Watch this

People change for others out of love and respect for that person.

As the old saying goes, “you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink”.

I can relate because I’ve been there and done that. It’s just a waste of time going back and forth between what you want them to be and what they actually are.

Don’t get me wrong, people DO change, they just have to want to. It’s so easy to understand, but once again, we often tend to just forget it.

Some people are open to change, others aren’t. Recognize who is and who isn’t, don’t give up, just try to understand, there could be some issues preventing your efforts.

If your efforts are in vain, it’s just water under the bridge and another lesson learned.

..Until we meet again

– That Gentleman


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