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A Hiatus for Perspective: Finding Peace

It should come as no surprise that I take time to write blogs and I say that lightly.

Well, it’s better later than never, right? Yes, it has been a while and for that I have learned so much more than the last time I allowed my mind to flow within the confines of this blog. Consistency is what people look for in a blog, a new post weekly, daily for some. I cannot promise that, but what I can promise is that with each blog that I write, time has brought me so many more lessons.

In my brief hiatus, I believe that as an individual, I have found peace. The phrase often lends itself to times that most expect to part ways with their material lives, but I feel that in life’s lessons, I have grown to accept the challenges. We are prone to worry, becoming frustrated over the unknown, our fate. I understand it completely, our minds race a hundred miles an hour and there is little we can do to prevent this. Personally, what has allowed me to be content with the hand I am dealt daily is the challenge. Challenges are at every turn and they just so happen to break up the monotony of routine in life. Routine, oh yes, many enjoy that and I do too at times, though it can be quite the bore. Naturally, we would live some stability and as we all know, routine brings about a sense of this.  As we look for our individual peace, we tend to just go through the motions. We are essentially breathing, but you cannot say that most are truly living.  The unknown fate keeps us up, it keeps us wondering; what becomes of us today, tomorrow, or in the not-so-close future. So, how can one gain the composure to find such peace?


Simple, right?

That’s what grants me peace to some degree. Of course we cannot prepare for every single challenge that comes our way, nor do we all deal with adversity the same, but mentally we can put ourselves on a plane that can look adversity directly in the face. Everything that we have observed or been through personally prepares us in some way or another. Yet, we panic and feel a sense of fear, even if we’ve seen the situation from afar.

In short, it is okay, but learn to embrace the experiences you’ve had, whether good or bad, they are preparing you for tomorrow.

..Until next time

Peace comes through preparation.


Maneuvering a curve

A little time has passed since I last wrote anything.

Okay.. maybe it has been longer than “a little time” but it’s strange that things have kept me away so long. Without further adieu, I shall get straight to the point.  It seems as though I’ve been driving on the road for a year and it has been nothing but curves that I could not see coming.  It honestly feels like I’ve seen every possible obstacle one could overcome.  Sometimes, I imagine life is really a road with a ton of curves, but of course, not everyone maneuvers a curve the same way. The curvy road I happened to be on took me to a very dark place, a place that I had not encountered to this extent. Usually, it’s a “hi and bye” sort of a situation, seeing obstacles in passing. I had always found a way to get past them pretty quickly.

..Not this time

This year is when I really harnessed my inner strength as an individual. Society has always said, “you don’t understand because you haven’t been there”, when speaking of tough situations and overcoming them. Personally, I like to give people a glimpse of the portrait and hopefully their creative process can do the rest .  Allow me to quote the Great Mike Tyson, “everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face”.

As I was pushed to the breaking point of every emotional fiber within my mind, I found that even as the curves continue to come, there is often several ways that we can make it past them safely. Hey, I understand frustration is all apart of it, but  there is much to be learned through facing those obstacles.  Fear of failure, the unknown, and incompetence can be tough pills to swallow I know. When maneuvering a curvy road, the best thing you can do is to remain calm. If you can manage to keep your cool, you allow yourself maximum opportunity for mental clarity. I will say that some people operate well within chaos, but that isn’t for everyone, to say the least. I had to understand that mistakes are opportunities, being afraid of failure does more harm than good. The unknown, a chance for us to walk into the darkness with hope of future light. Incompetence, the opportunity to become more organized every single day. Managing your emotions is easier said than done, but it can be done. Through winding down a curvy road, I found the strength and courage to go with a sense of calm and embrace the opportunity to encounter an obstacle. If it’s one thing I do know for certain, it is that you will encounter them in every facet of life.

Just don’t lose your cool.

..Until we meet again

– That Gentleman

Mr. Governor, I swear there’s a cover up….

I was just driving through my city last night…. smoking on a white grape White Owl…. so maybe it was the munchies that put me on game… but I noticed there are actually more liquor stores in Gary, IN than food joints. Ain’t that a bitch? There isn’t 3 sit-down restaurants worth a damn inside of my 53 square blocks. There used to be a jiggy little mom-and-pop Black owned Italian joint in Miller. It was called La Dolce Vida and there used to be little slam sessions and open mic nights up there every Tuesday. Now it’s closed and the building is up for sale. That spot lasted all of a year and a half… maybe. I know rii?

My question is this: What does it say about a community where the only thriving businesses either sale Hennessey or narcotics? To me it says that when people don’t have shit else, they lose site of their priorities. I can’t even lie, I do it to. Hell, I bought that blunt with the same money that probably should have gone into my gas tank with my taking-late-night-strolls-like- gas- is-free ass. It’s almost as if you get this mentality like, “Well fuck it, if ain’t nothing else gonna go right today, I bet you I catch my buzz. Fuck it!”. Well to be honest, I’m tired of living that way. I’m tired of watching people live, and die, that way.

You don’t change your world with one HUGE action… most of the time. It’s usually done with the gradual accumulation of small baby steps, but once you look back on it…whoa.

My nigga Nas said it best:

“I switched my motto, instead of saying fuck tomorrow, that buck that bought a bottle could have struck the lotto”

It’s amazing what a little change can do. You can fill the gas tank of my car for the same cost as a 5th of Crown Royal just to put it in perspective. How many Saturday night 5ths have you killed in your life? Could you see yourself driving up a whole tank of gas in one Saturday though? How many opportunities to better yourself have you passed up because you didn’t think about the following Sunday?

Do the math. there’s 52 2-day weekends a year. Let’s say you party (drink, smoke, or whatever) on most of those days (3/4s or so). That’s 78 days out of the year, right? That’s not that much right? Remember that.

Now you’re already asleep 8 hours a day (or more if you’re lazy like me) so that’s 33% of your life being lived in a dream. Now that 78 days a year adds up to 21% of your time. BUT… remember, you can only party IF you’re awake, so really it’s taking 21% of the 66% of your total lifespan (because 33% of that time you are sleep so you’re not partying during those hours). Now I’m not a math wiz at all, but I believe that leaves you with about 52% of live left after “taxes”. That’s crazy. 48% of your life is a joke. But the shit ain’t even funny… it’s sad.

I can only lead the horse to water. I can’t make it drink think….

It’s been real,
Young Rilla live from LHNS by way of Gangster Island