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A New Journey

big_thumb_9f320753dffa88fb02cb20a22693b119I made a commitment, a commitment to myself that I would not live as I had in my previous 25 years of life. It was midway point of sorts, the very middle of my twenties and from my perspective, I hadn’t reached my the level of consistency that I had imagined.

I know.

Things do not always go as you planned them to, but that doesn’t mean that I won’t hold myself to those standards and you may do the same thing. I live mainly in my mind, allowing few to enter and that is a flaw. It is something that I promised to work on; to allow my thoughts to flow more freely outward. I may write a blog every few months, once or twice a year, though I always have thought about it. I think it’s a common struggle, procrastination or just finding a reason to not do something when you have the impulse to do it. Though I understand this, I hope that through a renewed purpose in life, I can find the consistency that I’ve wanted, but yet to strive for entirely. It’s a journey that I won’t travel alone and one that I certainly share. After all, life really has no script and I’m still writing mine on the go, but this time I’ll actually sit down and map out what I want it to look like.

…Until next time


Wiping the Slate Clean

Let’s think about what wiping the slate clean means.

Everyday we may encounter certain situations that just bring down our moods or take us out of character.

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. – Aristotle

You must be able to remove yourself from that negativity and put your mind in a state of balance. It is completely understandable to be upset or have mood changes throughout a period of time, but it cannot define who you truly are. Entertaining a thought without accepting takes patience and it takes a certain type of self-control.

Essentially, you see it, you hear it, you comprehend it, but it is not prevailing. 

We all have the ability to maintain the mental balance that is conducive to progression, we rarely ever make a conscious effort to preserve that balance.

I encourage you to wipe the slate clean daily, remove the past and enjoy the present, understand that keeping that balance is key to living a life that keeps you in a forward progression.

Awakening the Mind

Take a second to just embrace this moment, breathe in deep and exhale; without doubt we are alive.

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, not to anticipate the future, but to awaken and live the present moment wisely, earnestly.”

Despite any situations that may intrude into your lives, steal a moment to breathe and understand that you are alive; your script is yet to be completed. Our bodies are guided through our mental processes and often we allow our daily routines to negatively affect our beings.

We must awaken our minds, practice calming the mental disturbances, and enjoy the now. It may seem foreign, it may seem difficult, or it may even seem useless to some, but this awakens your mental state.

..Until we meet again

Maneuvering a curve

A little time has passed since I last wrote anything.

Okay.. maybe it has been longer than “a little time” but it’s strange that things have kept me away so long. Without further adieu, I shall get straight to the point.  It seems as though I’ve been driving on the road for a year and it has been nothing but curves that I could not see coming.  It honestly feels like I’ve seen every possible obstacle one could overcome.  Sometimes, I imagine life is really a road with a ton of curves, but of course, not everyone maneuvers a curve the same way. The curvy road I happened to be on took me to a very dark place, a place that I had not encountered to this extent. Usually, it’s a “hi and bye” sort of a situation, seeing obstacles in passing. I had always found a way to get past them pretty quickly.

..Not this time

This year is when I really harnessed my inner strength as an individual. Society has always said, “you don’t understand because you haven’t been there”, when speaking of tough situations and overcoming them. Personally, I like to give people a glimpse of the portrait and hopefully their creative process can do the rest .  Allow me to quote the Great Mike Tyson, “everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face”.

As I was pushed to the breaking point of every emotional fiber within my mind, I found that even as the curves continue to come, there is often several ways that we can make it past them safely. Hey, I understand frustration is all apart of it, but  there is much to be learned through facing those obstacles.  Fear of failure, the unknown, and incompetence can be tough pills to swallow I know. When maneuvering a curvy road, the best thing you can do is to remain calm. If you can manage to keep your cool, you allow yourself maximum opportunity for mental clarity. I will say that some people operate well within chaos, but that isn’t for everyone, to say the least. I had to understand that mistakes are opportunities, being afraid of failure does more harm than good. The unknown, a chance for us to walk into the darkness with hope of future light. Incompetence, the opportunity to become more organized every single day. Managing your emotions is easier said than done, but it can be done. Through winding down a curvy road, I found the strength and courage to go with a sense of calm and embrace the opportunity to encounter an obstacle. If it’s one thing I do know for certain, it is that you will encounter them in every facet of life.

Just don’t lose your cool.

..Until we meet again

– That Gentleman

Who Are You?

Quite the question, isn’t it?

I believe we all have asked ourselves this question.

The script, we stare, it’s empty. Truly, it’s nothing more than improvisation, but for better clarity, we tend to write it down. You are asked to either draw a self-portrait or write about who you believe yourself to be. Casually, you begin to think, considering all of your memories past and present. Maybe a few stand out to form the words to an autobiography, or maybe those memories come with smaller images that allow you to piece together a portrait. Either way, you do think you have somewhat of an idea who you are.

A moment stirs within your brain, taking you back to a time where you had no worries. You asked yourself what you would like to be. Fast forward and you still might be asking yourself that question till this day.

So, you continue composing your works, it’s more of a tough task than originally believed to be. I think everyday is a chance to sneak a moment, possibly even an entire day to continue that work. Granted, that you do wake in the morning. Many times we walk past glass or mirrors and hope to catch a glimpse of who we are, but that’s only the beginning.

As agreed by most, you can only tell so much from appearance. The answer lies deep within, in the thought that truly brings about happiness. It could be anything, that is what makes the answer so special. We all have different answers of who we think we believe we are.

Few, are lucky enough to know who they are. Those that do, focus on helping others find that answer and begin to write the script progressively.

This will continue at a different time, look for your answer.

.. Until we meet again

– That Gentleman

..tick tick, goes the clock

“Give me odorous at sunrise a garden of beautiful flowers where I can walk undisturbed.”

Life isn’t truly meant to be understood and never it will be completely understood, but that’s the beauty of it. Everyone has their own interpretation of life and can make of it what they want. Some turn the borderline insanity into a perception of individual growth, while others, they just happen to go through the motions.  Another day, another sunrise, waiting on the what stress is going to come into your life on this day.

At times, you may feel as though the weight of the world is on YOUR shoulders. Understandably so, you feel as though you are making no progress and life, it’s just conspiring against you. It’s quite the disheartening feeling, but as we come to learn in life, it has its high’s and low’s. If we were to all be completely happy, wouldn’t it just a boring everyday ritual?  We do have those who attempt to consciously smile 24/7, but sooner or later, it does get old.

 Think about it. 

 So, while time is steadily ticking, you live without a care in the world… You walk by flowers and don’t even think to smell them. I believe there’s a quote that says, “wake up and smell the roses”.  Within yourself, think of all the times you may have just glanced at something, happen to become intrigued, but never stopped because you were in a rush. A person opens up the blinds, revealing the sunlight and you react in a tone of utter disgust.  The sun rises everyday, but the breaths you take can’t be counted on to feel your lungs the next morning.  Leaves you with a feeling of regret, though we are often hear from some that we should live without regrets. 

In every single day, the sun rises and the sun sets…somewhere. The vision of it’s beauty can surely be seen, but we seem to take it, as we do most things, for granted.

 Are you really getting the most out of life that you possibly could?  I must ask the question.

In times, like the ones we live in presently,  where things aroud us are times of chaos and madness, it is quite the necessity to understand the magnitude of our society. The living is the present and your mistakes are the past.  Enjoy every single wakin moment and never count on the next second to be there.

Find the beauty in your life and preserve the picture of it within the mental, it’s simple.

.. Until we meet again

– That Gentleman

.. Crossing over the thin line

There’s this thin line between love and hate, the border between insanity and sanity, which leads me to believe that there’s truly NO in between.

In this mild rant(organized chaos), I’m going to speak on a lot if issues and try to connect them all under one broad theme, “the thin line”.

Before I dive into this broad subject-matter, do not be offended if it does not pertain to you.

Women,  can’t live with them, can’t live without them, which is unfortunately the reality of the situation.  Men, well we’re stuck attempting to find the balance between that insanity and insanity, puzzled as to how to deal with it.

Every individual is made differently, but there are certain instances where we do fall into generalities.  Often,  we find that we get disturbed by individual flaws(granted, it’s how you perceive them).   A large majority of our generation seems to not embrace that individuality, which makes us stand out. I’ll allow myself, for this instance, to speak on the matter of women not embracing it.

I’ve been quite puzzled as to why ladies are so concerned with others that they forget who they are.  There’s a thin line between wanting to appreciate others and loving yourself.  We, as people, cannot expect others to fulfill the love that we SHOULD have for the person we see in the mirror. The increasing insecurity theme with women is in large part due to the sex crazed generation we have now.  I understand the faults of a lot of males these days in their lost touch with the idea that is chivalry.

Brief statement – Jealousy is not love.

Jealousy will not earn you anymore respect than insecurity will.

Back to what I was saying…

Many men and women are now judged by appearance, in some cases, rightfully so. By that judgement, those who do indeed judge, we are already moving entirely too quick. The idea of getting to know a person before you make a commitment has become close to extinct. Please excuse me for interjecting my own own experiences as I speak to you.

I’ve talked with ladies who felt as though me “getting to know them” was far too slow, so to speak. I had to ask myself whether it was right for me to even slow things down in the first place. After long thought, it was in my better judgement to do so. It seems as though today relationships just move extremely too quickly from the beginning, which leads to quicker failure.  I really would love see everyone’s point as to why there should be a balance of speed, but if you happened to read my blog before, you’d notice that I firmly believe that there is a severe lack of communication.  My instincts tell me to not speak with females in the sense that I’m attempting tto become their lifetime companion, but that’s just my instinct.. at the moment.

Reality does teach many lessons, day to day, and we must take from the knowledge of those days past. Understanding the problems that we face today are not as complicated as most would think, they just are not being approached correctly. So, for me to consistently come upon women who are in themselves insecure, just seems like a daily routine. Personally,  I believe that insecurity is far too vast and far too unattractive. Men are quite a bit more simple. We do have emotions, yet we often hide them behind our egos. The physical requirement in a relationship seems to overshadow the feelings that we actually have. Just being frank, it’s become too easy to gain that physical touch as compared to gaining entrance to the emotions of a love/friendship interest.

I’ll leave it at that, for now

..Until we meet again

– That Gentleman

Busy, Busy, Busy

Sometimes in life, you just get extremely bogged down. In the sense that every plan that you set, gets overshadowed by an array of situations that just “pop up”. It is definitely not enough time in the day to accomplish everything you would like to, but I’d really like to send a big “Thank You” to daylight savings’ time. The day just grows longer with less light haha. We’ve been away for a while because so many things just happen and honestly, I wish I could spend more time sharing our thoughts with you.

For now, I’ll just appreciate the time that is given and continue to strive for the best. People, don’t let yourself get so tied down that you forget to have fun in life, take some time and just relax for a change.

… Until we meet again

– That Gentleman

Just take the high road

Take the high road.

How many times have you heard that line? – > A lot, I know.

It seems to be present in every situation that arises though. If I can’t decide on which path to take, I take the highroad, logical and conservative at the same time. Besides, it never hurts to play it safe, right?

As a matter of fact, it does, at times. You play it safe and risk the chance of missing out on an opportunity.  Scared to jump, believe that there’s nothing to fall back on and catch you. You think, not only for yourself, but for those around you. Yet, you know that you only live once. You can act now or never, which is the choice we make everyday over and over again.  Shall we stop here or keep going?

My message to you is that there’s a STOP behind every corner. You can watch traffic or you can make that move and go into traffic, but you could also lose sitting at the stopsign.  The clock steadily ticks, while we steadily wait, but for what?

…Until we meet again

– That Gentleman